Why worry? Just let go.

April 3rd, 2006 by zoefaiz

What is life without worries? That’s what I tell myself when I have soooo many things on my mind. It doesn’t help one bit.

There are just so many things to worry about. And no escape. Workload at work, chores at home, bills to pay, errands to run, quality time with husband and family, time with friends, time on my own…and so on and so forth.

I read somewhere some time ago that one of the most liberating tools for empowering peacemakers is learning to let go. We carry so many burdens with us, from our childhoods throughout our lives. We carry hurts and wrongs that were done to us. We carry regrets about things we wish we had or hadn’t done. We hide these memories, but the anger and hurt and regret can influence the way we think and interact without our even knowing it.

Sometimes we forget to live while we’re living, because we’re focusing on something that we wish to be. Or we’re worried about something that lies ahead, and it distracts us so that we don’t seem to be able to accomplish anything or get any closer to where we want to be. The key to living a life of peace is to set our sites on where we want to be, but focus on where we are NOW, and take each step, moment by moment.
So that’s what I’m gonna start doing…. and before I do anything, I shall first let go.

Another sore throat

January 30th, 2006 by zoefaiz

I just had tonsilities like less than a month ago!

Just my luck that I woke up with a sore throat this morning and been coughing all day. What a way to start the week. And guess again - who’s bug I cought? Cairil’s. Oh well… no sweat lah. I’ll just have to withstand a week or two without anything too cold and have loads of water.

A long over due break

January 28th, 2006 by zoefaiz

It’s Saturday!!! I am so so relieved that the late nights at work for the past month has ended. Have been counting the days till this day. Something to motivate me to work hard, knowing that a long break awaits…. :)

Cool - The Story Behind

January 22nd, 2006 by zoefaiz

Composition and inspiration

"Cool" is a mid-tempo love song featuring numerous woodwind instruments and new wave production, with lyrics reflecting Stefani’s past relationship with No Doubt bassist, Tony Kanal. Although their romantic relationship ended, Stefani’s lyrics portray her attitude that it is "cool" that they still remain very good and close friends. Stefani and Kanal’s relationship had previously provided the inspiration for No Doubt’s 1997 hit single "Don’t Speak". However, whereas "Cool" presents a solid friendship between former lovers, "Don’t Speak" is about a failing relationship and never arrives at a solution for the couple. Stefani and Kanal supply the basis for the characters in both songs.

When Stefani was asked about the song, she responded, "Dallas Austin heard my song ‘Underneath It All‘ and got inspired to write a new song called ‘Cool’, which he could never finish about his girlfriend and all the bullshit of breaking up, and how he wanted it to be okay. We finished the thing in fifteen minutes. I didn’t write all of the melody—I’m ashamed, I want to say that I did—but I also know how magical it is that somebody could be so inspired by my song that they write one."[1]

The lyrics of "Cool" describe a relationship that ended amicably. As Austin had wanted to write a song about the aftermath of his failed relationship, the lyrics recall a romantic pairing that once existed, from the point of view of someone who has moved on from their former love, with Stefani mentioning that she has found a new partner. The lyrics suggest a progression through a turbulent time to a mutual understanding that takes their relationship to a level of respect.

Stefani sums up the evolution of their relationship with the line "after all that we’ve been through, I know we’re cool". They are now "hanging out" with his new girlfriend, amid "circles and triangles", while she has married and is pleased that he calls her by her "new last name".

"And I’ll be happy for you
If you can be happy for me
Circles and triangles, and now we’re
Hanging out with your new girlfriend"
"So far from where we’ve been
I know we’re cool"

The lyrics of "Don’t Speak" and "Cool" create a timeline of the events that occurred between Gwen Stefani and Tony Kanal during and between the years of 1994 to 2004; this includes their association in the band No Doubt, while maintaining a personal relationship. Said Stefani, "I was never intending to go personal on [the album]… but no matter what you do, things just come out. It just ended this whole thing for me in my head, and it puts an end to a chapter in a really nice way."[2]

The music video for "Cool" was directed by Sophie Muller, and was shot in Lake Como, Italy. It follows the theme of the song very closely, showing the relationship that Stefani has with a former boyfriend, who is played by Daniel Gonzalez. Gonzalez is seen walking with his new girlfriend (who is played by Tony Kanal’s girlfriend, Erin Lokitz) to a house. Stefani answers the door, and the three of them are seen in each other’s company, with intercut scenes of Stefani rolling around on a bed. There are brief flashbacks to the time when Stefani and Gonzalez were dating, where she wears a brunette wig, representing her younger self, as her natural brown hair has not been seen since she was twelve years old. Although the lyrical theme of "Cool" is maintained within the video, shots are also incorporated to show Stefani feeling "uncool". For the majority of the video, she is shown as being "cool" with her former boyfriend and his girlfriend, but there are also moments where she thinks about the past when she was dating Gonzalez, and is uncomfortable.

The video showcases the scenery of Lake Como’s restaurants, forests, and lakes. It is also the first video of Stefani’s that does not feature her Harajuku Girls, who were present throughout most of the promotion of Love. Angel. Music. Baby. The complete version of "Cool" heard in the music video has not been released commercially and features an orchestral arrangement that differs from the 1980s musical style of the single or album versions. "Cool" premiered on top-ten music video chart program Total Request Live on June 30, 2005, reaching a peak of number two, and also peaked at number two on VH1’s Top 20 Video Countdown. After debuting at number thirty on MuchMusic’s Countdown, it climbed to number one for a single week three months later.

(the above was extracted from http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cool_(song))

Cool

January 20th, 2006 by zoefaiz

Before I start babbling, I’d like to share the lyrics of the song I’m listening to and singing along now….

It’s hard to remember how it felt before
Now I found the love of my life
Passes things, get more comfortable
Everything is going right

And after all the obstacles
It’s good to see you now with someone else
And it’s such a miracle that you and me are still good friends
After all that we’ve been through
I know we’re cool
I know we’re cool

We used to think it was impossible
Now you call me by my new last name
Memories seem like so long ago
Time always kills the pain

Remember Harbor Boulevard
The dreaming days where the mess was made
Look how all the kids have grown, oh
We have changed but we’re still the same
After all that we’ve been through
I know we’re cool
I know we’re cool

Yeah, I know we’re cool

And I’ll be happy for you
If you can be happy for me
Circles and triangles
And now we’re hanging out with your new girlfriend
So far from where we’ve been
I know we’re cool
I know we’re cool

C-cool, I know we’re cool
I know we’re cool we’re cool
I know we’re cool

C-cool, I know we’re cool
I know we’re cool

I know it’s a bit too late to be into this song but what really made me soooo into Cool now is the video clip. Have you seen it? It’s a CLASSIC! I really admire those who can come up with ideas so unique that it just stays in you for a long time. The video captures the spirit of the song so well. I’ve always been enthusiastic about being able to capture moments be it in videos, photos or words. Well, I suppose I can be a bit of a hopeless romantic but hey - I think it’s okay to let yourself drown in the beauty of each and every moment of your life with your loved ones.

I would love to have a chance to direct/produce a video clip. That would be really really nice…. :o)

I’ve uploaded Gwen’s Cool on my friendster profile. For those who have not seen the video, enjoy….. :o)

My Work My Life

January 12th, 2006 by zoefaiz

It’s 10 p.m. and I’m still at work. *sigh* I should really bring comfortable casual clothes to change into whenever I work late. I think it would make a world of difference to my stress level if I don’t have to wear work suits during late nights like this. HmmMMMMmmm… I’ll try it the next time I work late. But that’s tomorrow! A Friday! Great. Will put a reminder in my PDA….

 

Food, food & food

January 10th, 2006 by zoefaiz

The subject for today is Food.

The following are the items which we have been served with for Hari Raya Aidil Adha

Breakfast - Lemang, serunding & beef rendang

Brunch - Nasi minyak, beef kurma, chicken masak merah and dalca

Lunch - Pulut, ketupat, kuah kacang, rendang (both beef & chicken)

Tea - Pizza

Dinner -  Nasi minyak, beef kurma, chicken masak merah and dalca (again!)

Now, where’s my diet menu again? Gotta stick to it quickly or I’ll explode out of my clothes soon.

Help.

Tonsilitis

January 5th, 2006 by zoefaiz

It all started when I was happily taking care of my sick hubby. Wrong move (hehe sorry dear).

Now Cairil is still down with swollen tonsils, a bit of flu and slight fever and yours truly, with the same bug(s)! I have a very sore throat which made it worse. It never fails to spoil my day. I can’t enjoy food (or drinks). No ice, no hot stuff, no ice-cream.

Home Sweet Home

August 24th, 2005 by zoefaiz

I have been spending quite a bit on decorative stuff for my condo and I still am not satisfied with what I’ve done so far. Photos and picture frames are still yet to be hung - thanks to my habit of procrastinating, the wall decors not done up yet, our bedroom is still most of the time messy (despite my continuous resolutions to keep ‘em tidy at all times)… and many other things to be done. Hmmmm… how do you make time for everything? I simply cannot.

Desperate Housewives

July 5th, 2005 by zoefaiz

Another addition to my favourite tv programmes. And it coincides with Miss Matched! This calls for video recording again. My life’s never been arranged around tv programmes before but I think it’s nice to have something to look forward to every week… other than my daily excitements with my loving hubby :)